Some people live life comparing themselves to others or worse being compared by others with others – either way, this then leads to them spending a great deal of time and energy trying to find ways to fill the gap or ‘fix’ the problem. They look for solutions at work, at home, in relationships, friendships and through acquaintances.
Whilst no human being is an island and much can be learnt from those who surround you and advise you with the best of intentions, the problem is perhaps not in the ‘fact’ that you need fixing but that you need to live in way that fosters your truth in any given moment.
That means ensuring that your circumstances and surroundings allow you to develop and grow mentally, emotionally and spiritually. It means understanding what defines you as an individual and not how past experiences or another person has defined you. It is about allowing yourself to simply be without the frills that are formed by other people’s expectations.
Human beings need to connect with others in order to survive but first and foremost, they need to connect and maintain that connection with themselves in order to be the best version of themselves. Seems simple enough, yet surprisingly many will sacrifice that connection with themselves when outside pressures (that is outside of themselves) start to increase. They then find it increasingly difficult to make any changes as their commitments to others prevent them from thinking about themselves – sometimes for very good reasons and yet sometimes because it is easier, less disruptive or expected that you continue as you are – or at least until you or someone else thinks you need ‘fixing’.
Coaching not only provides you with the space to think about and answer those small yet significant questions, it reminds you about the importance of being honest with yourself. After all, happiness is about being true to yourself.
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